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Real Love: How To Attract More Of It

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To Give is To Receive

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couple kiss on cheekcouple happyLove is the one thing that every human needs.  It makes each and every one of us feel wanted, adored and purposeful when those that enjoy who we are display their acceptance and gratitude.  However, love is one of the aspects of dating  that seems to be a bit skewed when it comes to what’s real and how to attract the sincere kind into one’s life.  It can be a complicated thing to know how to draw love to you if you’ve never experienced what real, true love  is.

As a matter of fact, there are 15 different types of love that exist within the spectrum, but in this instance we will be covering how to draw romantic love into your life.  This process isn’t just made up of one step like many believe.  Many believe that if love is true and if it’s right for you that it will be easily recognized and embraced…

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Liz Ferro’s “Girls With Sole” Non-Profit Helps Young Women Overcome Life’s Challenges Through Fitness

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Fitness is more about just losing weight or gaining that summer bikini body women crave. Fit-ness expands to maintaining areas of the Mind Body and Soul.
It is a blessing to see someone wanting to spread this message, especially to young women, giving them something else to have on their minds then just the challenges and heartache they face in life.

Originally posted on GOOD BLACK NEWS:

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Six days a week, Liz Ferro packs up her car and drives throughout Cleveland to teach young women yoga, swimming and other fitness-based activities. But it isn’t all about breaking a sweat.  “It washes away all the cobwebs,” Ferro told TODAY. “Not just out of my brain, but off my heart.”

After using fitness to recover from her own difficult childhood, Ferro now runs Girls With Sole, a non-profit organization committed to helping young women learn to overcome life’s challenges through exercise. “It’s so much easier for them to feel down on themselves,” she told TODAY.

TODAYFerro hits the road throughout the week to work out with pre-teen and teenage girls in schools, juvenile detention centers, social services and other organizations throughout the Cleveland area. “My car looks like a sporting goods store exploded in it,” she said. “It’s almost like Meals on Wheels, but we’re fitness and wellness…

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Nothing even Matters

I believe all great Art was created through an artist unseen pain. The type of pain you feel on the inside in which the only way to get rid of it is to release it in some form on the outside. Then the greatest masterpieces are created and felt in each artists stroke. Rather it be his stoke of the musical keys. Or his brush. His pen. Or even his keyboard. The artist is able to let go and allow the pain to flow. Sort of like a physical manifestation of hurt.

What a beautiful gift.

Even though all i feel is pain, my creativity flows freely, as if it just wants to burst forth and show it’s face to the world. But it is fueled by hurt. And what is more scary than that; is the fact that if I didn’t hurt, would I then have anything to create? Would I have anything to give the world?

 

Why {do we} close our eyes to Pray?

My children never cease to amaze me. As I know many other parents would say the same!

My 8 year old daughter, who might I add is what I like to call a “2000 baby”, is truly brilliant. And not just because she is book smart nor formally educated at some institution, but because she is young and naive to the world, she and other children are able to see things the way they are, in there natural, raw state.

Let me start by explaining why I call her, and all the other young children “2000 babies.” The children nowadays are of another breed; the 2000′s breed. Those born since 2000 and on are truly different from children born say 1900′s and on. When we think of the 1900′s, we think that is such a long, long time ago, but in reality, it was just a generation away.

The children born of today have such a different way of thinking, acting, behaving and I guess that could all be accredited to the advancement of the world. Children now come out the womb eyes wide open, walking, talking and working i-phones. They teach us stuff we never thought of.

This one in particular took the cake so far, and spark such a Light inside me that all i could do was hug them and thank God for placing them in my life, regardless of the obstacles I have had to overcome.

 

We were at a family barbecue and it was time to all gather together and bless the food. Once we said our amen, my daughter asks out of nowhere, “Why do we close our eyes to Pray?” Simple enough question for anyone but I just felt not many beings have taken the time to think of this thought. Then to make matters, well sweeter, her little brother chimes in with a “Yeah, everyone bows their heads and closes their eyes. Why mommy?”

In the moment, because I was fixing their plates to eat and helping guests, I was unable to fully offer a true kind of explanation to their curiosities. All I could say was “oh sweety, because they are speaking to God,” which only left them more puzzled and asking more “Why’s.”

Today, following my own personal prayer, I write to the world.To know God is to know and recognize Him within you. To recognize that He is of you and that you are a physical manifestation of His glory.

So it is only right to close our eyes in prayer. It is a natural instinct. With eyes closed, we are able to look within ourselves and speak to the Divine One, because He is alive within us. Looking anywhere else would not seem right. It would be as if we are speaking into the empty air.

I thank my children for asking me questions such as these because it allows me to not forget the true meaning of, well, Life. It forces me to shed the pre-programmed, generational false way of thinking that I have developed as a result of living a life of 28 years (which 24 of them spent not knowing nor walking with God)  and adopt a pure, natural way of thinking, as the children do.

 

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NEW money

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There’s OLD money; i.e The Rockefeller’s. And then there is NEW money; i.e entrepreneurs of today.

When you think of long-standing families, such as the Rockefeller, you think of an extensive lineage of wealthy individuals that have basically kept the money and assets “all in the family.”

Today, in 2014, there is, what I observe as, NEW money. No longer are people wealthy because they are simply born into it. But more so, people are making their own NEW money from nothing, because they work hard to do so!

In this great free country of ours, what you want is what you will get. Period. If you work hard and make things happen for yourself, then you will benefit from it in one way or another.

Institutionalized government unemployment rates are still rising in various portions of the country, but “the average American” is becoming richer, alongside in the shadows..

The way things are presently occurring in the countries economy, with the state-to-state issues concerning the Affordable Care Act and it’s varying regulations and rules; employment opportunities fluctuating in big, metropolitan cities vs. being more non-existent in rural areas; individual education levels and how having a degree typically doesn’t even matter when it comes to finding steady work anymore, citizens are truly taking their lively hoods into their own hands and creating a new vision of making a living for themselves.

The dynamics of riches and wealthy are changing rapidly, day-to-day. And I have to say that I am GLAD. No longer do little kids (especially poorer black girls and boys), have to sit around wishing they had been born into that wealthy family (even though that is nice!), but more so they are beginning to understand that it is the individual’s mind state and hard work which they put forth using there own hands, that creates them wealth and riches

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now that i am FREE, i shall WRITE! Faces of Abuse

 

shuttershock picOh how freeing it is to live in a day of age where we virtually have every luxury afforded to us, right in our grasp, and all we have to do is reach for it. Seriously, think about the freedom which we truly posses here in this country. Freedom to move, think, pray, act, eat, live and pursue what ever one’s heart desires, deep within. If you are a hard worker and put forth the effort, anything can be in your arms reach.

But what is freedom if you are not free to live your life, in your own life?

Take my case as a prime example. Married to a man I had known from my high school days, yet never dated, connected, married after two months and conceived our son a few months after that. Sounds like a romantic story for the books but of course, things may not always be as they seem.

Though my husband was a genuinely good husband with just a checkered past (as we all have), he was very insecure within himself. With the knowledge I poses now, I understand that NO ONE, I mean NO ONE can solve another’s insecurity problems. Or mental issues. Also, I understand this is a number one trait found in any abuser; the fact they are not happy with themselves and hate the fact that you basically are!

He fit this description to the tee. Nate, as I will call him, did not even like a man looking in my direction, even if he were only looking to order off a menu which was located behind me! Thinking back on it now, my face scrunches up at the memory of how he freaked out over every guy he saw. Or thought I had spoken to. Or was around. Or worked in the workplace with. Or had spoken to me. Oh, I could go on and on.

Anyway, these traits, and others, women tend to look over. Especially if his behavior isn’t exactly physically abusive in nature. We just say “oh he just likes me a lot and wants me all to himself.” Thinking that overly possessive, controlling,  “always hanging around as if he is watching over you”, insecurity is cute or romantic. Or even normal for that matter. It aint! It is rather embarrassing, when I think about it.

Ugh, love is blind. A number one mis-consumption women live by: “He is not abusing me if he is not physically hitting me.”

NOT! 

They don’t have to hit you with his fist to tear you or your spirit down. Honestly, in my opinion, the quickest, easiest, undetectable way a abuser will take advantage of you is mentally and emotionally. Prohibiting you from going after the job you want, being around the loved one’s who truly care about you, (that is a BIG one because an abuser knows they are the people who will eventually get you out and away from them!), participating in the hobbies and activities you enjoy the most and just plain putting you down in any way they can come up with.

Ugh! I wish I could reach everyone who was in a situation I just escaped from, shake them and say “Love is not hard. It does not hurt and you don’t have to sacrifice your identity just to have it.” Instead, you can live FREE, do the things which make you whole as a person, see the places that are on your “bucket list” and grow into the person you truly want to be.

Abuse has many faces. It is time to recognize them and address them as needed. We must not forget the mental and emotional abuse one uses with the driving force of fear and power. Education is the antidote for ignorance.

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Coming Soon: Remote-Controlled Birth Control

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So many scary thoughts fill my head when I read this.
Who in the WORLD wants some device implanted in them, continuously releasing medicine into their body, over year’s time for Heaven’s sake?!?!?!
My Goodness, things seem to be headed in a scary, “i-robot” world sort of way.

Originally posted on BlackDoctor:

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Instead of taking a pill a day, what if you could take one pill that lasted 16 years? That’s the premise for a new project funded by the Gates Foundation, which looks at innovative ways to deliver drugs into the body. A single smart capsule could release drugs into a patient’s body over the span of years, and respond to remote wireless signals if doctors want to alter or halt the treatment.

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The most immediate use could be a smarter replacement to the standard birth control pill. The Gates Foundation project looks to develop a pill that would automatically release a contraceptive hormone into the bloodstream, lasting for 16 years or until it’s disabled by a wireless signal.

The project is planning to start preclinical testing in 2015 and reach the market in 2018, but there are still…

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